A Love Less Marriage Is Better Than Separation As Long As Husband and Wife Perform Their Traditional Functions In Family: Love and Liberation Are Mirages !
Rajiv Upadhyay
Indian arranged marriages lasted so long because husband and wife’s roles were so well defined that any marriage could last a life time as long as husband and wife performed their traditional roles . Love as defined now, mostly developed with time in varying degrees depending on compatibility but no one ever thought of separation as an option on flimsy excuses.
Patriarchy is a time tested and most suitable system and any alternative has not proved better. Consultation is alright but bi polar authority in family is a recipe for disaster.
Men is and should be responsible for discipline, security and finances and woman for love and care of all family members.
Its unsuitability for women, is a modern myth created by foreign media and romanticised by very vociferous WOKE/WOG Indian females otherwise in miniscule minority , on MSN type foreign platforms .
It is true that many women, given a choice want to work and earn. It gives them a feeling of self respect. But for them it really a it is a hobby just like playing flute for men. A women giving preference to her hobby including job is like a man sitting at home and playing flute instead of going to work and earning. Earlier outside job also meant harder working conditions and stronger bodied male was automatically better suited . Now with computer and machines women can as well be soldiers with AK -47 and rocket launchers. Although there were always Rani Jhansi and Razias in every age but in an aggregate analysis the old traditional marriage model is still the best for the majority of women.
It is known that generally in a family, on an average a working woman contributes about one third of income, barring a few high paying professions. In businesses it is even lower. Gender equality is demanded on political basis not on real measured achievement basis.
So, in this perspective, a rich or well earning male should automatically rule out a working wife unless it is part time job in first few years of marriage till children are born and if old parents are not staying with son. Love marriages are inferior to stability provided by arranged marriages in India .
Working women must clearly specify their expectations before marriage and leave no ambiguity about their career preference or house hold work. Generally women opt for deception before marriage under parental/social pressure thus ruining their and husband’s life by their abnormal demands after marriage due to heavily anti men marriage laws that need to be abolished.
These days a pre marriage contract is essential as otherwise it leads to judiciary interfering in the most important aspect of our personal lives. But as witnessed in ‘ Live In’ relations, Judiciary will still interfere because of love for publicity and marriage laws being biased in favour of women but it will still be safer.
Arbirary alimony is an exploitation of men . Women’s contribution to men’s earning after marriage is very nominal particularly because men marries only when he well settled and earning enough. In no specie, male is responsible for feeding female. They collect their own food . Family life gave that privilege to women . Modern working and liberated women deserve no alimony if they do not perform traditional wife functions including family care and house hold work. Separation terms should be specified in a pre marriage contract as in Islamic marriages or done by Mark Zukerberg of Facebook. Women cannot get the lifelong support if they remarry or live with parents and supporting them in their old age and getting a share of their property.
There is need to expose the WOG/WOKE army , destroying Indian family life by their perverted views on marriage in India.
