जब भी कोई नारी उत्पीडन या बलात्कार का मामला आता है तो यह कहा जाता है की पुरुष महिलाओं की इज्ज़त नहीं करते . तरह तरह की दलीलें दी जाती हैं की नारी सर्वत्र पूज्यते तो सिर्फ किताबों मैं है वास्तव मैं युग आज भी पुरुष प्रधान है . दूसरी ओर बढ़ते हुए तलाक़ नारी की बढती हुयी असह्श्रुनीता का द्योतक हैं ,परिवार अब यहाँ भी पश्चिम की तरह बिखरने शुरू हो गए हैं .एक नयी नक़ल शुरू हो गयी है . बच्चों के अधिकार की रक्षा करना. बी भारत मैं भी बच्चे पोलिस को माँ बाप के विरुद्ध शिकायत करके बुलाने लगे हैं . मुसलामानों के परिवार बचे हुए हैं क्योंकि उन्होंने पश्चिम का अन्धानुकरण नहीं किया है . इस प्रश्न पर व्यापक चिंतन की आवश्यकता है . श्री रमाकांत तिवारी का यह लेख केवल एक पहलू को उजागर करता है . परन्तु समस्या विश्व व्यापी है . पश्चिम के नारी मुक्ति आन्दोलन ने इसका कोई समाधान नहीं दिया है. बल्कि उससे पैदा हुयी एक घटती जनसँख्या यूरोप की संस्कृति के नाश के लिए जिम्मेवार है जहां अब यूराबिया बीस साल मैं बन जाएगा.
क्या भारत मैं नारी वैलेंटाइन डे व् ‘ Slut Walk ‘ से बेहतर हो जाएगी.क्या सरकारें व् महिला आयोग नारी की असह्शुनिता को नहीं बढ़ा रहे .क्या दहेज़ के इकतरफा कानून लड़के के माँ बाप को नहीं प्रताड़ित कर रहे हैं .
क्या हमारे पुराने मूल्य ज्यादा अच्छे नहीं थे ?
यह प्रश्न भारत की सब नारियों को सोचना होगा .
Everytime there is a gender crime / gender-inappropriate conduct, menfolk are condemned and abused for not being gender-sensitive. But no one analyses the root cause and right approach to address the problem.
Today even well-educated / economically independent women do not analyse the root-cause deeply. All observations are superficial and not more than a patchwork approach. I am venturing into this social minefield with my views / observations though I am no expert in this discipline at all.
Root cause of the menace is hidden in complete absence of right values / Samskara-s, nurturing permissive western values (or lack of it), encouraging waywardness, glorifying all that is reprehensible in the name of so-called modernity / liberalism. There can be no longterm solution without inculcation of right values.
First point of impartation of right values / Samskara-s is mother when the boy is a teenager. During this phase, whatever gender-sensitve lessons / values are imparted upon the boy, remain etched on his mind throughout his life, till death. Mothers must not lose out this opportunity as it is most impressionable stage of development and it does not come back again. And during this phase, the responsibility must not be delegated to fathers / school teachers.
School education must include Value education too. Value education is intimately connected with reading of correct history. Younger generation must know our glorious traditions / golden history to be proud of so as to prevent them from becoming materialistic animals like in the west. When correct history was in the process of being introduced during NDA rule, anti-Hindus / communists raised lot of hue and cry about so-called saffronisation of education. Intense political pressure is the only way out. Unfortunately, value-education was withdrawn under the influence of communists who are ever bent upon destroying the society / country as they have done wherever they could. In absence of value-education at school level, there is every possibility of boys going in wrong directions. It is pertinent to mention at this stage that not a single rape case has come to my knowledge where the tormenter was schooled in a Gurukul !! Even Swami Ramdeva too, has made the statement live on Astha channel. Inferences / conclusions are loud and clear.
Pranayam / Yoga must be done compulsorily in schools / jails etc. One hour Pranayameveryday effectively calms down mind, excellent control over senses develop and faculty ofBuddhi takes over mind. Transformation is simply unbelievable and I have been eye-witness to several such cases.
In fact, this one single act of compulsory Pranayam everyday is capable of solving entire problem alone. It is so powerful that a hardened criminal shall be de-criminalised and an ordinary person would become an angel.
Laws must be strictly gender-neutral. It can be achieved only through political pressure and movements. National Commission of Women must take lead in this regard.
Coming to the educated women, economically dependent or independent, why do they retreat when they observe a gender misconduct being committed in offices / public place etc. Why don’t they come forward boldly to become witness, lodge complaints and observe zero-tolerance towards such crimes ? Why don’t they unite to force authorities to act promptly if not at once ? Why the hesitation / inhibition in reporting such crimes loud and clear in the name of so-called image / honour ?
I would take the liberty of advising them to mull over following questions introspectively –
Do women respect women ?
Do women-mothers discourage the idea of having sons only whenever the idea crops up in
family ?
Do women fast and worship Bhagavan Siva for having daughters the way they do for
acquisition of sons ?
Do women-mothers teach / preach their teenage / impressionable sons to respect their wives
and treat them equal when they grow up and marry, the way they preach their daughters to
respect in-laws / husband ?
Do women-mothers tell their sons to treat their sisters equally well ?
Do women-mothers treat their sons / daughters equally well ?
Do women-mothers treat their daughters-in-law and daughters equally well as ever ?
Do women-mothers treat their mothers-in-law and mothers equally well ?
Answers to all these is a loud and thunderous NO.
Therein lies one of the right solutions instead of blaming everybody around all the time
because if a man does not respect women, it is because his mother had not taught him to
respect women when he was a teenager because women do not respect women…..the cycle
must be broken somewhere by someone and it shall to be mother alone.
I do not see any merit in repeating the same old rituals of TV debates / Dharna at Jantar-
Mantar and all that bla-bla. It is a subject of serious thoughts and effective actions to be taken
earliest.
Women in our ancient times commanded as much respect as men. Even our scriptures
including Veda-s are testimonies to that. They are regarded as Sakti of Brahma, in feminine
gender and adorable. Maharsi Manu adds in his unique Manusmriti, “Along the same lines,
daughters are to be educated, exactly as boys.” It is only Sanatan Hinduism that statescategorically,
“Yatra Naryastu Pujyante, Ramante Tatra Devata I”
“Where women are adored, dwell in deities.”
So, it is not true that we were always like that as depicted by some who wish to defame
destroy Hinduism and Hindus. Our past record has been too glorious, then mutilated by
external forces and it is not going to be difficult to re-attain that glory once we are resolved to
do that.
Ramakant Tiwari
